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  • Janet Nambi

Boundaries At Work!

Are You Honoring Yourself by Enforcing Your Boundaries?




I was talking to a young lady last week who said she quit her passion because the demands were too much.


A lack of boundaries at work will take time and energy from you and youโ€™ll become unproductive and ineffective.


Workplace stress and workloads are key drivers of burnout.


๐ƒ๐ข๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ฉ๐ฅ๐š๐œ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ“๐ญ๐ก ๐›๐ข๐ ๐ ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ ๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐”๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐’๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ฌ. ๐€๐๐๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ, ๐š ๐ช๐ฎ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐€๐ฆ๐ž๐ซ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ง๐ฌ ๐ข๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฃ๐จ๐›๐ฌ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ #๐Ÿ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐œ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ.


The biggest problem is that most people think they have no choice. But thatโ€™s not really true.


If this is you, you are probably constantly complaining about the lack of time. Your days are crazy and stressful.


Self-employed or not you have too much on your plate, dealing with clients, suppliers, service providers, regulators, and your team, and then home.


You are pulled in so many directions!!!


This is exactly why you need boundaries.


Boundaries are necessary for us to protect ourselves from harm. It is a clear request of someone else with a clear consequence that you will take action when the boundary is crossed.

Healthy boundaries are those that you put in place to ensure that you are safe emotionally and mentally.


For example, asking a co-worker to not make demands on your time or, physical, like asking a co-worker to not touch you because you do not find it appropriate.


Without clear boundaries, people will do whatever they please with you in your space because they can.


Here are the reasons you need to set healthy boundaries.


1. ๐๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ โ€“ you are telling the other person that you are clear about your individuality.

2. ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐–๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  โ€“ you are letting the other person know that you will not compromise your feelings over their actions towards you.

3. ๐ˆ๐ง๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ซ โ€“ you want to show the other person how they treat you. And when they do not agree you decide the consequences and act on them.

4. ๐€๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐ ๐›๐ฎ๐ซ๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ โ€“ you want to make sure you do not overstretch.

5. ๐ƒ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ๐จ๐ฉ ๐€๐ฎ๐ญ๐จ๐ง๐จ๐ฆ๐ฒ โ€“ making decisions based on whatโ€™s best for you.

6. ๐†๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฅ ๐ก๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ญ๐ก โ€“ when you reduce the stress you encourage emotional wellbeing and therefore good mental health.


Healthy boundaries help manage demand on your time. Unnecessary or uninvited demands cause us to have #resentment, #anger, and #burnout.


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Here's how you honor your boundaries.


  1. Carve out time to know what's urgent vs what's important. Understand your own values and priorities.

  2. Communicate your boundaries very clearly and specifically e.g. "if I must stay late today I will not have enough rest, therefore, I will need some time off tomorrow morning to recuperate so I can be as. productive as I am expected to be".

  3. Delegate whenever it's necessary. Allow yourself to let go of the need to do it all, your need to seek perfection.

  4. Do not be afraid to say 'NO' e.g. "I am afraid I will not be able to deliver it in the time you expect, I have several priorities lined up which are of high importance."

  5. Take some time off. Everyone deserves it. Even you. If it will not be given to you then simply take it. Do not hold yourself hostage creating success for others who do not appreciate your efforts.


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Once you have your boundaries in place honor them before you expect others to honor them, and make sure you honor your set consequences.

So how are you fairing with your boundaries at work?



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